Explanations for female sexual arousal

In response to my article saying that it was ridiculous to suggest that a man can give a woman an orgasm, a man wrote:
“My wife is consistently orgasmic. They are obviously not faked. She can’t fake the cries, the involuntary movements, the demands for more stimulation, and everything else that goes with orgasm.
I’ve offered oral and manual stimulation. She rejects oral because she considers it unhygeinic and a short cut for those who lack skills to do it the regular way. She demands my penis as soon as I have an erection. She orgasms through penile thrusting. …
When I lost my virginity to an older, more experienced woman, she eagerly guided my penis into her. … She obviously enjoyed my penis and got three orgasms from penile thrusting alone.
Several years later another woman begged me to make love to her and I did. She wanted my penis inside of her. … She told me once that her body ached for mine. She wanted a penis inside her.
I admit I have not had as much variety as a lot of men have had, but the women with whom I have had sex have demanded a penis. Judging from the intensity of their orgasms, they’ve been very satisfied and would have it no other way. My wife tells me she lets me caress her to orgasm with my fingers only for my enjoyment. She prefers an orgasm with my penis.”
Why is a man with this experience reading these articles in the first place? If everything works for you then that’s fantastic. I am not questioning that people have these experiences that read like erotic fiction. I am interested in discussing any LOGICAL EXPLANATIONS for how women are supposed to achieve these orgasmic feats given the FACTS of female sexuality.
“Most women do not orgasm as a result of intercourse per se. The overwhelming majority of women require specific clitoral contact for orgasm.” (p29 The Hite Reports 1993)
The clitoris is the female sex organ
The FACT is that the vagina has very few nerve endings. To come across even one woman who can feel sensations in a part of the body without nerve endings would be un-nerving but to come across three such women is positively suspicous.
Why would anyone who is hoping for orgasm ignore their own sex organ? It doesn’t make sense. Why are men so ready to accept that although they need penile stimulation in order to orgasm, women orgasm easily without any genital stimulation?
A woman’s sex organ is the clitoris (which has many nerve endings) and if women experienced true sexual arousal then they would want to stimulate their genitals (through clitoral stimulation) just as men do. Women approach sex with a focus on the penis and penile thrusting because male sexual arousal is much easier to achieve.
Relatively few women masturbate and so most women are unaware of what orgasm is or how to achieve it. They are not necessarily even hoping for orgasm from their sexual relationships because they have no experience of it.
For years I was convinced that vaginal intercourse MUST work. Even though my own experience told me that it did not. Even knowing that clitoral stimulation is required for female orgasm did not help because nothing seemed to work with a partner.
I agree with the experience that clitoral stimulation alone does not guarantee orgasm. But the reason for this is that genital stimulation is only effective once a person is mentally aroused.
Anyone who is familiar with orgasm will appreciate this point. If you cannot find a way to get your mind switched on then it doesn’t matter how much you stimulate your genitals – nothing will happen.
Even when I knew how to orgasm from female masturbation, I did not consider using the same orgasm techniques during sex. Many women find that sex with a lover is incompatible with using sexual fantasies.