The facts of female sexuality

(1) Women need clitoral stimulation for orgasm
The experts concluded decades ago (in the 1970’s) that the clitoral stimulation resulting from vaginal intercourse is likely to be insufficient to allow most women to orgasm.
So, it is very likely that any woman who claims easy orgasm during intercourse is mistaken. Especially given so few women masturbate and so most do not know what orgasm is. Women’s talk of the relationship and loving emotions also indicates a misunderstanding about the nature of orgasm.
Since the clitoris is the female sex organ, most women are likely to find orgasm much easier through oral or manual stimulation of the clitoris. Yet most women are shocked by the idea of masturbation and oral sex.
Relatively few women say that they enjoy female masturbation as a regular adult activity for the purpose of enjoying arousal and orgasm. So if they don’t know how to achieve their own sexual arousal and orgasm, how would they be able to reach orgasm during sex with partner?
Women who are familiar with orgasm from female masturbation, do question a lack of orgasm during sex. Unfortunately, their sexual experiences are often dismissed as being sexually inadequate because there are other women who are claiming that orgasm with a partner is easy.
I have never found that clitoral stimulation (foreplay or masturbation) helps with sexual arousal during vaginal intercourse. It would be interesting to know how many women have the same experience and also whether other women are able to overcome these difficulties with sexual arousal during sex.
(2) Women do not use images of naked men for arousal
So women use sexual fantasies during female masturbation but no one suggests what they are supposed to substitute during sex with a partner. The underlying assumption is that female sexuality means that women approach sex from a similar standpoint to men – just short of an orgasm.
Understandably, it is difficult for a man to know what it’s like to be a woman. There is nothing wrong with women just because they don’t respond sexually as men do. As long as men keep hoping that women should respond sexually as men do then they will always think women are dysfunctional.
Women use fantasy because they have to raise their arousal levels from a much lower base level than men tend to have at the start of any sexual activity (masturbation or sex). I can vouch for this in respect of female masturbation. Sadly female sexuality involves women being much less highly sexed than men.
Women are not full of testosterone (the sex hormone) and do not use images of naked men for orgasm during female masturbation (women use sexual fantasiesy). So what makes us think that they can become aroused as easily as men do during sex with a partner?
How else do women achieve orgasm with a partner unless it is through the use of fantasy? I have found no one who can explain how women are supposed to use sexual fantasies during sex.
I am asking other women to tell me whether they have been able to use fantasy during sex with a partner. If they do not use fantasy then I would be interested to know what they do use for sexual arousal.
This is not a competition. My aim is to collect more facts and information about women’s sexual experiences so that more couples can benefit from knowledge about female sexuality.