A man's sexual arousal can be very flattering

In the early days of a romance, a man feels loved and needed through sex. A man’s sexual admiration for a woman makes her feel cared for and appreciated.
“Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed… Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished…” (p43 Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)
In the film ‘The Mirror has two Faces’, Barbra Streisand and Jeff Bridges star as a couple who agree to marry with no intention of ever having sex together. On continued sexual rejection by her husband, Barbra admits “I don’t do anything to you – that’s the problem.” She continues: “I believe in lust and sex and romance. I want someone to go crazy, out of his mind for me.” Sex and love are often confused for women and, for many women, sex need not be about orgasm at all.
Just as men feel valued as providers, women feel valued for being attractive. A woman wants to be rushed off her feet with the passion of her man’s sex drive. She wants to be adored. A woman’s ability to turn her man on causes him to want her both sexually as well as to ‘love and to hold’. Women have this power to attract a man and some people even define female sexuality in these terms.
In Rod Stewart’s song ‘You’re in my heart’ he explains “You are my lover, you’re my best friend”. Emotionally, it’s possible that men need women more than women need men because men don’t share emotional intimacy with others as easily as women do. It is sex that binds a man to a woman and motivates him to fight to the death if necessary to protect her. ‘Titanic’ was one of the most popular films of all time because women love the idea that a man could be so totally devoted.
“How to satisfy a woman every time: Caress, praise, pamper, … die for, dream of, tease, gratify, squeeze, indulge, idolise, worship. How to satisfy a man every time: Arrive naked. ” (p93 Why men don’t listen 1999)
Like it or not, sexual relationships favour male orgasm and naturally, given their drive to reach orgasm, men hope a lover will enhance their sexual arousal. Being the appreciative female lover can be one of the ways that a woman shows that she cares about her partner. She becomes less willing over time when she realises that he does not care about her priorities and feelings. Showing that you care about someone involves talking together and seeking an understanding of how the other person feels and what is important to them.
“A man’s sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results. ” (p16 Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)
“A woman’s sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships. ” (p18 Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)