Understanding female sexuality

One of misconceptions of the sexual revolution was the proposal that, for men and women to be equal, they had to be the same. But testosterone is the sex hormone and it’s no surprise that men’s bodies are full of it.
Attributes traditionally considered feminine (e.g. being passive or accommodating) were thought to be signs of weakness or inferiority. Whereas traditionally masculine attributes (e.g. being assertive or dominant) were thought to be signs of strength or superiority.
This is a very natural male view of the world but many young and independent women also identified with the masculine perspective. So it was implied that all women, whatever their aspirations or experience, should aspire to these more masculine characteristics and goals.
Sex is fundamentally about male sex drive. A man’s erect penis is the symbol of this hormonal drive to thrust until ejaculation. If women have a reproductive drive at all then it is an emotional drive to raise their children. They certainly do not have the same biological drive to reach orgasm that men experience.
Women’s sexual fantasies often include an element of domination. It is fashionable to interpret such negative images as indicative of guilt or inhibition. I see it differently. When a sexual partner takes control we have the pleasure of feeling that we are the object of their desire. Many men would not object if their woman took a more assertive role by indicating her sexual desires.
Initially, a young man is so driven by his own need to bring his state of sexual arousal to orgasm that he has little bandwidth for concerns about his partner’s arousal. More experienced men come to appreciate that having an engaged sexual partner who is able to enjoy her own sexual fantasies and sexual arousal can be the most arousing aspect of sex over the longer term.
I have questioned how other women can experience spontaneous sexual arousal because I have been sexually adventurous. The truth is that men often assume that their partner experiences orgasm: either they rely on their partner’s say-so or they assume that women’s minds and bodies respond to sexual stimuli much as men’s do.
My appreciation of eroticism has encouraged me to explore my own sexual arousal both alone and with a partner. Women who object to eroticism often comment that sex scenes potentially violate women or defile their bodies. Such women must have very different reactions to a woman who is more at ease with eroticism. There is no judgment here simply a desire to differentiate.