The sexual revolution set false hopes for female sexuality

The proposal of the sexual revolution was that, in a modern society with reliable contraception, every sexually ‘normal’ woman would enjoy sexual arousal and orgasm during sex just as men do.
Unfortunately, although only a relatively small sample of women exhibited sexual desire, the popular message was that all women could potentially be as strongly driven by sex and orgasm as men are.
Naturally, there is a bias towards younger and more attractive women but the implication is that all women share in this new found sexuality. Women who did not enjoy sexual arousal and orgasm during sex as easily as men did were now considered to be abnormal, either ‘inhibited’ or even ‘frigid’ (terms never applied to men).
This new definition of female sexuality implied that, once relieved of the old-fashioned female inhibition, truly modern and liberated women’s minds and bodies would respond just the same as men’s had always done. Women were pressured into exaggerating both their sexual desire and their sexual arousal as well as faking orgasm.
Other women often simply accept that sex is one of those areas of human life that will never be truthful or honest. Women have too great an advantage through sex to be willing to admit any potential inadequacy. This explains why women fake orgasm rather than visit a sex clinic. They are not motivated to find an answer they just want to keep the peace.
“… a woman’s sexual fulfilment is much more complex than a man’s. She requires a man with a skilful touch, lots of time, and a loving attitude. For a man, once he is aroused, it is generally a given that he will have an orgasm.” (p72 Mars & Venus in the Bedroom 1996)
The power of female sexuality is to arouse men
When girls become women they learn that men’s response to their body provides them with a tremendous advantage both in earning easy admiration and in their relationships with the opposite sex.
In the film ‘Dangerous Liaisons’ Glenn Close asserts that sex involves women using their sexuality in order to manipulate men. Women’s advantage comes from the fact that men need sex so intensely whereas women do not need sex at all.
This power causes resentment between women because those who pander to men’s sexual fantasies are seen to be capitalising on this male vulnerability and thereby often threatening the stability of marriage and family.
I was naive enough to believe in the promises of the sexual revolution. I was determined to highlight the difficulties for women who hope to reach orgasm with a partner
Women in the 1950’s may have been willing to use their sexuality for their own ends. Hopefully today, there are some women who are prepared to see the benefits in being more honest about what women can hope for from their sexual relationships.
My familiarity with orgasm from masturbation made it more difficult for me to accept a lack of sexual arousal during sex.
The only activities I have found arousing enough for orgasm have been anal sex and vaginal fisting. Even then the sensations are different to orgasm from masturbation (using fantasy).
Something that is very difficult for a man to accept is that even though orgasm is a very pleasant feeling it is still not something that I would miss so much that I would not want to continue living without it. My experience is that sex tends to be much more vital to a man’s sense of well-being.
One man in his sixties with prostate cancer said that without the ability to become aroused and enjoy sex, his life would hardly be worth living. I have never heard a woman admit something similar.