How does a man give a woman an orgasm during sex?

Depressingly often it is asserted that for a woman to orgasm during sex she must truly love her man. A loving partner will, of course, know how to give her an orgasm.
Presumably the woman is so impressed with her man and, of course, his equipment (which is always huge!) that he cannot fail. He doesn’t really have to anything special. He simply needs to do what he knows best and that is to thrust into his woman until she orgasms.
Minor details are glossed over: such as the FACT that since the vagina, as part of the birth canal, has few nerve endings women typically are aware of little sensation from penile thrusting. Equally no one worries about the FACT that most women need direct clitoral stimulation for orgasm and the clitoris is only stimulated indirectly during vaginal intercourse.
Never mind. A man’s fantasy of providing a woman with sexual pleasure remains intact. If he can do this by stimulating his penis at the same time, he is in a kind of sexual heaven. Intercourse allows a man to enjoy his partner’s breasts, mouth and penetrating her vaginally.
Dream on…
Men are not alone in misunderstanding female sexuality. Dismissing Shere Hite’s detailed conclusions about how women learn to orgasm, one woman said “Now we’re being told how we should orgasm, holy shi-! It’s much easier than the babble of a therapist: find a man who KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING!”
The suggestion is that for the perfect sex life a woman just needs to find the right man: usually a loving and considerate partner. Apart from the extremes of rape, this is complete nonsense! Women don’t need loving feelings for orgasm any more than men do. Orgasm involves a release of sexual emotions (through an appreciation of eroticism) not loving or romantic emotions.
Sometimes people imply that an experienced male lover knows how to use positions and techniques for sexual intercourse. Presumably they are unaware that, no matter how inventive the position, the experts concluded in the 1970’s that the INDIRECT stimulation of the clitoris during intercourse is insufficient to allow most women to orgasm.
A man can provide the additional DIRECT clitoral stimulation that a woman needs for orgasm by hand or mouth. Anyone who has tried this will know that such techniques do not guarantee orgasm for every woman. It may be better if the woman provides her own clitoral stimulation during sex and many experts suggest this as if it will GUARANTEE an orgasm.
Unfortunately, even during female masturbation, clitoral stimulation is only effective once a woman is aroused enough for orgasm through the use of sexual fantasies. It is rarely acknowledged that women use sexual fantasies during sex. Unfortunately, the complex psychological nature of many women’s fantasies make them unsuitable for use with a partner.